A GLIMPSE OF WHAT A FRIEND IS.

What does the word FRIEND mean?

It means
F--- Forgives, Faithful.
R-- Respect.
I-- Intercede, Improve.
E-- Empathy, Enhance.
N-- Nice, Nourishes.
D-- Dependable, Dearling.

Proverbs 12:26, 17:17, 18:24, 20:6, 27:9&17, Job 42:10, John 15:15, 1 John 4:7, 1 Samuel 19:1-7.

There are six(6) types or stages of friendship, This includes;
1. Stranger.
2. Acquaintance.
3. Casual Friend.
4. Close Friend.
5. Best Friend.
6. Intimate Friend.(Marital Friendship).

NOTE: If you're not married yet, any person can be your Best Friend(any gender)..But for the married people, your wife/husband must be both your Best and Intimate Friend.

    Friendship is a good thing and is important in our journey of life...We all need a true friend beside us to make life easy and to support us.

TRUE AND LASTING FRIENDSHIP OF VIRTUE takes TENDERNESS, TRUST, RESPECT, FORGIVENESS, SINCERITY, FAITHFULNESS, HONOUR, PATIENCE and TIME to BUILD.

    It depends on Mutual Growth, i.e there must be a mutual level of sacrifice, love and goodness required in each person to make the friendship grow and last...It can never grow if it is one sided. True friends sacrifice their time, energy, knowledge and resources to beautiful and make sure the friendship grow and last.

SO WHO IS A TRUE FRIEND?

    A true friend is someone who accept you for who you are, who has your back no matter what, always has your best interest at heart and who contributes to your overall good health.

MAYOR QUALITIES OF A GOOD FRIENDSHIP.

    Respect, Trust, Honest, Faithful, Communication, Support, Value adding, Freedom(i.e, you're free to be yourself around them), Healthy boundaries, Forgives and Patience.

QUALITIES OF A GOOD AND TRUE FRIEND.

    Trustworthy, Accept you for who you are, Correct in love, Honest, Faithful, Respect, Improve(makes you better), Nonjudgmental, Selfless, Tender and caring, Stimulates, Encourage, Enhance, Appreciate, honor and celebrate you in both private and publicly, Support you, Sacrificial, Understanding, Forgives, Express Empathy, A good listener, Dependable, they truly rejoice in your wins, they're Patient with your weaknesses and flaws and they put effort and care to grow and maintain the friendship.

NOTE: We are humans, we may sometimes fail to express these qualities, but that doesn't mean we're bad friends, it just means we're still growing and we also have our personal lives to development.

QUALITIES OF A BAD/TOXIC FRIEND.

    Unreliable, Mean & degrading, Unforgiving, Rude, Encourages the wrongs/bad habit, Prone to gossip, Frequent anger, they're not there when you need a friend the most, betrays, Selfish(It's all or more about them), Ignore you or your messages(only call or approach you when they need something or bored), doesn't initiate or communicates much or at all, always don't have to give, don't check up on you, Envy, Mistrust, Always Busy, don't show up, don't give you space(super glue), let relationships interfere with friendships, no/less support, care, respect and love, doesn't accept their wrongs or say sorry, proud, inharmonious, hide the friendship, drains you emotionally, morally, spiritually, etc.

NOTE: We're humans🤷🏼‍♀️ we may sometimes express any of this qualities(deliberately or not deliberately) cause we're not perfect and still growing.

    My secondary school teacher said, even the person close to perfection has a season of madness.

    The main thing is to stay off or break the friendship if its frequent, you've communicated with them or corrected them severely, so that it won't affect your mental health.

WHEN TO GIVE SPACE TO A FRIEND OR STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE???

    When they frequently ignore you or your messages, when you're doing all the work to maintain the friendship, you can't count on them(no support), no/less respect, they're ashamed to tell or show people about the friendship(even ashamed to celebrate you in any social media platform), manipulative, they can't defend you in private and public, they backbite, competitive, they feel irritated by you, always/more fight, like to bully you to others, when they always brush off your problems or things about you like it doesn't matter, always disgrace/embarrass you, devalues/belittles you and when their presence always stress or drains you emotionally, mentally, morally, spiritually, etc.

    Before you make the decision to stay off or cut off the friendship, you should first explain to them how their behavior affects you and give them time to change..But if they're defensive, refuse to change then you can take your decision to stay off for sometime, continue to bear or to cut the relationship off.

    Lastly, if you need true friends, then you must first be a true friend.

THE ONE WHO NEEDS A FRIEND MUST BE FRIENDLY.


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